I always seem to work harder and not smarter. I’ve figured out why, and it’s because I’m bad at saying “no”. I always take on more than I should and I sabotage myself. As a result, my writing suffered this week. I didn’t do any. I edited and marketed, but I didn’t write, didn’t do what I most enjoy because I let other things stop me. I felt like crap after a week with no writing.
I’ve noticed the people who say “yes” always get asked. I should – I’m one of them. They get overloaded, become exhausted, lose sight of their own goals. Maybe they become less important and lose the respect of others. I don’t like to say “no.” It feels unnatural, unhelpful, negative, almost rude. But I’ve watched others do it and it doesn’t appear to hurt them.
Someone once told me, “do something well or don’t do it at all.”
So, I’m saying “NO” more often from now on. I hope it sends a positive message: I value my time. I want to do things well. I don’t want to give a half-assed attempt. It’s a sign of respect, too. I don’t want to let you down.
What’s stopping you?